The Power of Apology - Special English Audiobook

     The Power of Apology

The Power of Apology

  Welcome to Spotlight, I'm Christy Van Arragon.
   Welcome to Spotlight, I'm Christy Van Arragon.
  And I'm Joshua Leo.
   And I'm Joshua Leo.
  Spotlight uses a special English method of broadcasting.
   Spotlight uses a special English method of broadcasting.
  It is easier to for people to understand no matter where in the world they live.
   It is easier to for people to understand no matter where in the world they live.
  I am sorry.
   I am sorry.
  This phrase is one of the most powerful phrases in the English language.
   This phrase is one of the most powerful phrases in the English language.
  It is something that is often difficult to say.
   It is something that is often difficult to say.
  Saying I am sorry means that you regret something you did or said.
   Saying I am sorry means that you regret something you did or said.
  Saying I am sorry is a kind of apology.
   Saying I am sorry is a kind of apology.
  It is a way to admit that you were wrong.
   It is a way to admit that you were wrong.
  Today's Spotlight is on the power of apology.
   Today's Spotlight is on the power of apology.
  On the streets of Nalanda, India,
   On the streets of Nalanda, India,
  a man sits wearing very dirty clothes.
   a man sits wearing very dirty clothes.
  His clothes are made from old cloth bags.
   His clothes are made from old cloth bags.
  Old shoes hang around his neck.
   Old shoes hang around his neck.
  His name is Shyam Narayan Sharma.
   His name is Shyam Narayan Sharma.
  He has a dark past.
   He has a dark past.
  Years ago, he admitted to the murders of sixteen people.
   Years ago, he admitted to the murders of sixteen people.
  As a young man, Sharma worked as an assassin,
   As a young man, Sharma worked as an assassin,
  a person who kills other people for money.
   a person who kills other people for money.
  He was fifteen years old when he killed his first person.
   He was fifteen years old when he killed his first person.
  But this was not his only crime.
   But this was not his only crime.
  In nineteen eighty six (1986) he stole a child.
   In nineteen eighty six (1986) he stole a child.
  He asked the parents to pay him money -
   He asked the parents to pay him money -
  then he would return the child.
   then he would return the child.
  But after three weeks holding the child,
   But after three weeks holding the child,
  Sharma let the child go.
   Sharma let the child go.
  He said he felt sad for the child.
   He said he felt sad for the child.
  The story became famous, but the police never caught him.
   The story became famous, but the police never caught him.
  Sharma also owned a factory.
   Sharma also owned a factory.
  Like many people in Nalanda, he made guns.
   Like many people in Nalanda, he made guns.
  Making these guns was illegal,
   Making these guns was illegal,
  but it made Sharma a lot of money.
   but it made Sharma a lot of money.
  But after years of crime,
   But after years of crime,
  Sharma went to the police.
   Sharma went to the police.
  He admitted his crimes.
   He admitted his crimes.
  The police put Sharma in prison for a few years.
   The police put Sharma in prison for a few years.
  But when he was released,
   But when he was released,
  Sharma went back to a life of crime.
   Sharma went back to a life of crime.
  He went back to the police again in 1995,
   He went back to the police again in 1995,
  and finally again in 2000.
   and finally again in 2000.
  During his time in prison,
   During his time in prison,
  Sharma read many books.
   Sharma read many books.
  These books changed his life.
   These books changed his life.
  Some of the books were religious books like the Christian Bible.
   Some of the books were religious books like the Christian Bible.
  Sharma says that these books changed the way he looked at life.
   Sharma says that these books changed the way he looked at life.
  He started teaching other prisoners how to read.
   He started teaching other prisoners how to read.
  He then changed his name to Dayasagar.
   He then changed his name to Dayasagar.
  This new name means "ocean of sadness and caring."
   This new name means "ocean of sadness and caring."
  After four years in prison he was permitted to leave.
   After four years in prison he was permitted to leave.
  But Dayasagar would not leave the prison
   But Dayasagar would not leave the prison
  unless the police promised to keep teaching the other prisoners how to read.
   unless the police promised to keep teaching the other prisoners how to read.
  The guards had to force Dayasagar to leave the prison.
   The guards had to force Dayasagar to leave the prison.
  After prison, Dayasagar sold his home.
   After prison, Dayasagar sold his home.
  He used the money to start a school for poor children.
   He used the money to start a school for poor children.
  He called the school "Nai Subah" which means "New Morning."
   He called the school "Nai Subah" which means "New Morning."
  Dayasagar teaches sixty children from the village.
   Dayasagar teaches sixty children from the village.
  He does this for free.
   He does this for free.
  At the beginning of this program,
   At the beginning of this program,
  we described Dayasgar's strange clothing -
   we described Dayasgar's strange clothing -
  clothes made from cloth bags,
   clothes made from cloth bags,
  with shoes around his neck.
   with shoes around his neck.
  His strange clothes are a way for him to recognize his crimes,
   His strange clothes are a way for him to recognize his crimes,
  and ask forgiveness.
   and ask forgiveness.
  The school and his clothes are a way for Dayasagar to apologize.
   The school and his clothes are a way for Dayasagar to apologize.
  Dayasagar apologized for all the bad things that he did.
   Dayasagar apologized for all the bad things that he did.
  But can a person apologize for things that other people did?
   But can a person apologize for things that other people did?
  Well, in the year 2000 Pope John Paul did just that.
   Well, in the year 2000 Pope John Paul did just that.
  The Catholic Church has existed for more than a thousand years.
   The Catholic Church has existed for more than a thousand years.
  In this time the church has done many great things.
   In this time the church has done many great things.
  But in his apology, the Pope said that the church has also hurt people.
   But in his apology, the Pope said that the church has also hurt people.
  Church policy has caused division and suffering.
   Church policy has caused division and suffering.
  Sometimes, people have died as a result.
   Sometimes, people have died as a result.
  So the Pope apologized.
   So the Pope apologized.
  He apologized to several special groups,
   He apologized to several special groups,
  including Jews, Gypsies, women and native people.
   including Jews, Gypsies, women and native people.
  He apologized for the pain the church caused to people
   He apologized for the pain the church caused to people
  who were not Catholic.
   who were not Catholic.
  He apologized for many historical events.
   He apologized for many historical events.
  The Pope even apologized to Galileo.
   The Pope even apologized to Galileo.
  Galileo was a scientist in the seventeenth century.
   Galileo was a scientist in the seventeenth century.
  He was one of the first people to say
   He was one of the first people to say
  that the earth moved around the sun.
   that the earth moved around the sun.
  At this time, the church leaders did not believe this.
   At this time, the church leaders did not believe this.
  They thought the sun moved around the earth.
   They thought the sun moved around the earth.
  So the church put Galileo on trial and sent him to prison.
   So the church put Galileo on trial and sent him to prison.
  Today, scientists and the church agree that the earth moves around the sun.
   Today, scientists and the church agree that the earth moves around the sun.
  Pope John Paul wanted to show the world
   Pope John Paul wanted to show the world
  that the church cares about the truth.
   that the church cares about the truth.
  He wanted to show that any person or group can be wrong sometimes.
   He wanted to show that any person or group can be wrong sometimes.
  Many church leaders were not sure
   Many church leaders were not sure
  if it was a good idea for the Pope to do this.
   if it was a good idea for the Pope to do this.
  They thought that the church should not admit that it was wrong.
   They thought that the church should not admit that it was wrong.
  They believed that people would not trust them -
   They believed that people would not trust them -
  that it would take away from the church's authority.
   that it would take away from the church's authority.
  But the Pope disagreed.
   But the Pope disagreed.
  He thought that it was important to apologize.
   He thought that it was important to apologize.
  Many doctors agree that apologizing is important.
   Many doctors agree that apologizing is important.
  And apologies are good for the giver and receiver.
   And apologies are good for the giver and receiver.
  When a person receives an apology,
   When a person receives an apology,
  they begin to feel emotional healing.
   they begin to feel emotional healing.
  Apologies help people move past anger.
   Apologies help people move past anger.
  When a person does something wrong,
   When a person does something wrong,
  they feel bad about it.
   they feel bad about it.
  This feeling can be emotionally damaging.
   This feeling can be emotionally damaging.
  Apologizing helps to heal these emotions.
   Apologizing helps to heal these emotions.
  Apologizing shows that you respect the person you wronged.
   Apologizing shows that you respect the person you wronged.
  Apologizing also helps keep the person from doing that bad thing again.
   Apologizing also helps keep the person from doing that bad thing again.
  Is there something that you have done
   Is there something that you have done
  that you feel bad about?
   that you feel bad about?
  Is there a person who you have treated badly?
   Is there a person who you have treated badly?
  Do you need to say "I am sorry" to someone?
   Do you need to say "I am sorry" to someone?
  Here are five things you can do to have a successful apology.
   Here are five things you can do to have a successful apology.
  One, make your apology real.
   One, make your apology real.
  Mean what you say.
   Mean what you say.
  People can tell if you take responsibility for what you did
   People can tell if you take responsibility for what you did
  or if you are lying.
   or if you are lying.
  Two, do not make excuses.
   Two, do not make excuses.
  An apology is not explaining why you did something,
   An apology is not explaining why you did something,
  it is saying that you were wrong to do it.
   it is saying that you were wrong to do it.
  Three, make a promise to change.
   Three, make a promise to change.
  A real apology shows that you have learned from what you did.
   A real apology shows that you have learned from what you did.
  Show that you mean what you say.
   Show that you mean what you say.
  Four, make it clear that you are apologizing.
   Four, make it clear that you are apologizing.
  Just saying "I am sorry" is not enough.
   Just saying "I am sorry" is not enough.
  Talk about what you did
   Talk about what you did
  and then say that you feel bad about doing it.
   and then say that you feel bad about doing it.
  It is important that the person knows you are apologizing to them.
   It is important that the person knows you are apologizing to them.
  Five, be prepared for the unexpected.
   Five, be prepared for the unexpected.
  Sometimes an apology is followed by the other person apologizing.
   Sometimes an apology is followed by the other person apologizing.
  Relationships can be healed. Friendships can be formed.
   Relationships can be healed. Friendships can be formed.
  But sometimes an apology does not solve all the problems.
   But sometimes an apology does not solve all the problems.
  It may take time for the person to accept your apology.
   It may take time for the person to accept your apology.
  The person may stay angry with you.
   The person may stay angry with you.
  You never know how things will end,
   You never know how things will end,
  but an apology can usually help.
   but an apology can usually help.
  Who do you need to apologize to today?
   Who do you need to apologize to today?
  The writer and producer of this program was Joshua Leo.
   The writer and producer of this program was Joshua Leo.
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